Breaking up a relationship can be very stressful and can lead to anxiety. This is particularly true when your ex-partner was at fault, as it feels so unfair that they caused the break-up and now you are suffering because of what they did.
The sudden changes in life that a breakup can create are stressful enough, but a toxic breakup can seem more than one can bear.
- If your ex left you for someone else, you can feel rejected and it is a massive punch-in-the-guts to know that they chose someone else over you.
- If your ex was gaslighting you, you might feel that you don’t really understand what actually happened
- If your partner cheated on you and then asked to come back, you will probably sense alarm bells going off every time they even glance at anyone else.
- If your ex is not being reasonable over the divorce settlement / separation agreement, you are likely to have a lot of anxiety not knowing how it will resolve itself.
- If you and your ex have children, you are likely to be worried about how the breakup will effect them.
The problem is that you are no longer entirely in control of the situation. Your partner or ex-partner controls part of the break-up and probably has a different idea of what they want out of it.
It is a very hard situation to be in, but you should remember that you can only control what you can control. You will not get an ideal result in the end, and you will have to live with that. So look to what you can do with the situation you are in and (as far as you are able) put the past behind you. It’s time to create a new beginning.
I see a lot of people suffering from anxiety after going through a messy breakup. I cannot patch up the relationship, but I can help people cope with the situation and move forward.
If you are struggling getting through a rough time in your relationship and you cannot cope with it all on your own, you may like to consider hypnotherapy. I work out of my clinic in Fleet, Hampshire and would be happy to have a chat and let you know what I can do to help. You can Contact Me whenever you are ready to do so, and then take your time to decide whether you want to see me for hypnotherapy, cope on your own, or try something else.
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