Tim Maude Hypnotherapy

Tag: hypnotherapy

  • Please Find An Alternative Route

    Please Find An Alternative Route

    Let me ask you a question: What is your reaction when your plans are disrupted? You know what you want to do, but someone or something unexpectedly stops you.

    The other day, I went out on an errand in the car for a couple of hours, and when I got back, the end of my road was blocked off. A notice said, “Road closed – please find an Alternative Route” and I couldn’t get to my house. So I drove round the streets until I got to the other end of my street. A few yards up that way was another notice: “Road closed – please find an Alternative Route”. Both routes to my home had been blocked off.

    Let me ask you that question again: What is your reaction when your plans are disrupted? Do you get angry. Do you swear? Do you shout at the people who are preventing you from carrying on? Do you quietly fume, holding it all in? … If you do any of these, you are simply adding to your stress. No matter how indignant you feel, developing that righteous anger will not make the situation any better.

    I found a place to park on the street some way off, and walked home. If something upsets my plans, I put it aside and find a way round the problem. I have learnt not to get angry, or tense. I just say, “It is what it is and there is nothing I can do about it.”

    You see, getting angry, upset or stressed when someone or something upsets your plans is a response that you have when you already have a lot of stress in your life. When your “stress bucket” is already full, adding another difficulty will push you into anger, anxiety, depression or some other negative emotion. Of course, the negative emotion does not help solve the problem.

    Later on that day, the workmen had gone and I walked back to the car and drove it home. I looked for the positives: 1) I got an additional walk in the fresh air, 2) the pot holes at the end of the road were (at last) filled in, and 3) I got an idea and a photo for this blog.

    So if your road is blocked, don’t get mad, simply find an alternative route.

    And Finally …

    I have just made a very glib statement – “simply find an alternative route.” I know that it is not that easy for some people, especially those suffering from anxiety. I help people with anxiety using hypnotherapy to help them regain normality in their lives. You can Contact Me if you want to find out more about how I can help you.

  • Do You Avoid Medical Visits Because Of Anxiety?

    Do You Avoid Medical Visits Because Of Anxiety?

    I had to go to hospital today for a routine appointment. As I was waiting, I remembered all the clients I have helped who get anxious about medical visits – doctors’ appointments, hospital visits, medical procedures, vaccinations … and so on.

    It is surprisingly common for people to feel anxious about visiting their doctor or going to hospital. Some people feel anxious, but go anyway. Others feel the anxiety build up so much that they miss the appointment. And there are yet others who avoid going to any medical visits because it makes them so anxious.

    Being anxious about medical procedures is often combined with an anxiety about health. If you are anxious about your state of health, then you may avoid going to see the doctor or have a medical procedure because you don’t want to know the result. Of course, this makes it more likely that you will have a medical problem that goes untreated.

    Hypnotherapy for Medical Anxiety

    Hypnotherapy can have a remarkably positive impact on medical anxiety. By calming down the subconscious part of the brain that causes the anxiety, it is possible to see the doctor and have those medical procedures, to help your body heal and get back into a more normal state.

    Medical anxiety happens because the subconscious wants to protect you from the unpleasantness of thinking about your own illness, or the invasive nature of some medical procedures. It is not pleasant to think about your own body failing, and your subconscious tries to protect you from that unpleasantness by making you anxious enough to avoid the medical visit. This is not a logical or sensible but, unfortunately, this is how our brains work.

    Hypnotherapy gets round the subconscious rejection of medical visits by tackling the fight-flight-freeze part of the brain directly, calming it down and gradually helping it understand that it is okay to go and see your doctor.

    The result is that, after a few hypnotherapy sessions, people will be able to face the medical visits with much reduced anxiety, and so be able to look after their own bodies.

    And Finally …

    If you recognise this anxiety in yourself, or your friends and family, you are welcome to Contact Me to talk about the possibilities of what hypnotherapy might do. I work from my clinic in Fleet, Hampshire and can also work Online – whichever works for you.

    It all starts with contacting me for a no-obligation chat.

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  • Dealing With The Emotion That Arises From Distressed Relationships

    Dealing With The Emotion That Arises From Distressed Relationships

    Nearly one in five couples in the UK are in a “distressed relationship” (See Ref 1) – one in which there are frequent arguments, thoughts of separation and regret over getting together in the first place. The stress that this puts on the couple is immense. For some, this leads to a lot of anxiety, anger, feeling of inadequacy and other negative emotions.

    Now, the accepted wisdom for a distressed relationship is to see a couples counsellor: someone who can help the couple work through their issues and come to a more satisfactory ending – be it a more tolerant and happier life together, or separation. This helps with the relationship, but does not necessarily deal with the anxiety that one or both the pair may have to deal with.

    How Hypnotherapy Can Help With The Emotions In Distressed Relationships

    Let’s start with what hypnotherapy does not do. It does not help sort out what has gone wrong with the relationship. It does not work with the couple together. It just works with one of the pair to deal with their ability to deal with the emotional upheaval. It does not take sides in the relationship. It just helps sort out the emotional turmoil.

    There are many negative emotions that arise from a distressed relationship. For example:

    • Uncontrolled anger when having an argument
    • Regret over the situation they find themselves in
    • Fear about the next outburst and argument
    • Feelings of inadequacy when the partner talks about breaking up
    • Jealousy that is still there after accepting a partner back after they had an affair

    These are just some of the negative emotions that make it difficult to think straight, and so make it difficult to find a way forward.

    Hypnotherapy can help sufferers get more in control of their emotions, and so deal with the distressed relationship in a calmer and more rational manner.

    What To Do If You Need Help

    If you find yourself in a distressed relationship and want help dealing with the emotional stress that you find yourself under, you might like to consider hypnotherapy.

    I have helped people with all the emotional issues arising from a distressed relationship listed above, with the result that my clients have been able to control their own emotions and so deal with the situation in a calmer and more controlled manner.

    If you would like to talk to me about this, or any other matter, Contact Me and I will be happy to have a free 10-minute consultation to answer any questions you might have. You can also book in for hypnotherapy with me. I work out of my clinic in Fleet, Hampshire, and also work online.

    References

    Ref 1: 2016 survey by the Understanding Society
    https://www.understandingsociety.ac.uk/research/publications/publication-523689/

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  • Are You Scared At The Thought Of Flying?

    Are You Scared At The Thought Of Flying?

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  • “People don’t understand my anxiety”

    “People don’t understand my anxiety”

    People don’t understand what it’s like to have anxiety. They don’t understand what it’s like to wake up up in the morning with that overwhelming impending sense of doom. They don’t understand what it’s like to go through life in a constant state of worry – about anything and everything. If they haven’t experienced it, they don’t understand what anxiety sufferers go through.

    Now … If you can relate to this … If you find people don’t understand you and what you’re going through … If you want help in getting back to life a normal life again …Then you might like to try hypnotherapy.


    If you want to find out more about hypnotherapy. … check out my website and contact me.

    I specialise in helping people with anxiety and depression. I use hypnotherapy to help them regain their normal life. I work from my clinic in Fleet in Hampshire as well as Online. So if you want help dealing with your anxiety you can Contact Me for a free 15 minute phone consultation and ask any questions you might have.

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  • Petrified When Flying? Hypnotherapy Can Help

    Petrified When Flying? Hypnotherapy Can Help

    In the last few days there has been a horrendous incident where a plane collided with a fire-fighting vehicle at LaGuardia Airport New York. This is an isolated incident, but it can only heighten the anxiety of people planning to fly in the coming weeks.

    Fear of Flying and its Consequences

    There are many people who experience anxiety when flying or when they are about to take a flight. This can range from mild nervousness to full blown panic attacks or anywhere in between.

    For people who are expected to fly for work, this can be a real problem. The anxiety that is generated by the flight can only inhibit their ability to do their job of work properly while they are away.

    For those who simply want a holiday in the sun once a year, this fear can ruin the anticipation of a good holiday, and ruin the holiday because of worry about the flight back.

    How Hypnotherapy Helps With Fear of Flying

    Hypnotherapy helps by tackling the primitive parts of the brain that is generating the fear. The people I have helped get over a fear of flying fit broadly into three categories:

    • People who have had a bad experience of flying in the past.
    • People who are always anxious when they fly, but for no apparent reason.
    • People who have never flown and have anxiety over taking their first flight.

    Each of these people have anxiety thinking about flying as well as being on the flight itself. Hypnotherapy allows them to calm down that part of the brain that generates the anxiety.

    One client, who had a particular fear of the take-off and turbulence called me up after his trip. He said that on the return flight, they took off in the midst of a violent thunderstorm, so that as the plane left the ground they were already in massive turbulence. “I actually quite enjoyed it.” He told me.

    Hypnotherapy works best shortly before the flight itself. I usually start to see people about two or three weeks before their flight.

    Other Options

    Although I would highly recommend hypnotherapy, you should be aware that other options are available.

    • Self medication – Some people take over-the-counter medication to keep them calm or drowsy for the flight.
    • Prescribed medication – Drugs to calm you are available from your doctor if the symptoms are bad enough.
    • Fear of flying courses are available from many airlines.
    • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is available from the NHS provided your symptoms are bad enough.

    I am aware of people who self-medicate with a lot of alcohol. Personally, I would not recommend this option.

    Ask Me About the Hypnotherapy Option

    If you want to enquire further about hypnotherapy as an option to help with your fear of flying, Contact Me on the form below and I will get back to you to arrange for a free 15 minute consultation. Then, if you want to book in, I can arrange that too.

    I work out of my clinic in Fleet, Hampshire, and also work online.

    References

    LaGuardia Air Crash


    https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c620w12y59

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