There are times in everyone’s life when they seem to loose control. Stress levels hit the roof and they loose a sense of being in control of what is going on. Maybe it is anxiety … maybe it is depression … or maybe there is a simmering anger sitting just beneath the service. It is time to do something about it.
When you decide it’s time to regain control of your life – you have a number of choices. A lot of people will go to their doctor and get medication. Some will find a therapist to help (I see people every week who have taken this route). And some will look to do something about it themselves.
The Three P’s
If you want to do something about it yourself, one of the best ways to normalise your brain is to adopt the 3 P’s into life. You don’t have to have lost control of your life before you start doing this. In fact, you would be far better off adopting the three P’s just to avoid getting into that state in the first place.
P1 Positive Thinking
When everything seems to be going wrong in your life, it becomes very easy to focus on the negative. We notice everything that seems to be conspiring against us. Our brains automatically bring our attention to things that are not working for us.
It takes effort, but if you can deliberately identify the positive things that are happening to you, no matter how small, you can start to regain control of your thinking. Notice even the little things – a nice cup of coffee, a greeting from the person checking out your groceries at the supermarket, or the warmth of the bed as it gradually warms up when you snuggle down under the duvet.
P2 Positive Action
It is easy, particularly when you are feeling down, to resort to doing something mindless, like slumping in front of the TV, or endlessly scrolling through your phone. These are little distractions that block out all the negative things that are going on in our minds.
Instead, make the effort to do something positive. It does not have to be much. Maybe get up and make a cup of tea, go for a walk, or do that household job that you have been putting off for so long. Just go and do it. Taking positive action and doing something that will make your life a bit easier gets your subconscious to realise that it can do something about the situation you are in.
P3 Positive Interaction
How often have you avoided talking to other people, just because it’s too much effort. When we are feeling low, our automatic reaction is to avoid other people – or seek out other people to tell them all about our problems.
It is that positive interaction with others that helps you get back in control. So have a chat with a neighbour when you bump into them on your street, talk with the people around you at work, or go out with friends. Talk to other people about what is good in your life.
Putting It All Together
When you have this positive interaction with others, do things that positively affect your life and think positively – when the three P’s are all in play – the chemical balance in your brain will undergo changes. These changes tend to lead to a sense of more control in your life, and your life becomes happier.
And Finally …
For some, this is all too hard or takes to long and they want a quicker solution. Hypnotherapy is just one of several therapies known to help. I work as a hypnotherapist in Fleet, Hampshire and would be pleased if you Contact Me – but only when you are really ready to do so!
Picture Courtesy of Claire Harvey